It's easy to get lost in the day-to-day responsibilities of raising children. Between diaper changes, school drop-offs, and endless meal prep, your interests and passions can quickly fall by the wayside. But nurturing your individual identities and pursuits is not only important for your wellbeing - it also sets a powerful example for kids.
When we make time for activities that light us up, we demonstrate to our children that personal fulfillment matters. We show them the importance of cultivating a rich inner life beyond external roles and obligations. And we become more present, patient parents when we create space to recharge doing things we love.
How to carve out time and energy to rediscover hobbies and passions
1. Start small
You don't need to dive headfirst into a time-consuming hobby. Set aside just 15-30 minutes a day to engage in something you enjoy, whether it's reading, crafting, exercising, or learning a new skill. Consistency is more important than quantity. The Mayo Clinic suggests that exposure to nature can help to regulate the nervous system in as little as five to ten minutes.
2. Involve your kids when possible
Look for ways to share your interests with your children. If you love to paint, set up an art station alongside them. If you're a bookworm, institute family reading time. Gardening, cooking, music - there are so many hobbies that can become quality time with your kids.
3. Prioritize your passions
Treat your me-time with the same respect you give to your other obligations. Schedule it into your calendar and protect that time from other demands. You may need to say no to some things, delegate tasks, or let go of perfectionism in other areas to make room for what matters to you.
4. Find a community
Connecting with other moms who share your interests can provide accountability, encouragement, and inspiration. Join a local group or class, or find an online community centered around your hobby. Knowing others are cheering you on can be a big motivator.
5. Give yourself grace
Reclaiming your passions while parenting is a process, and it likely won't be linear. There will be days and seasons when you have more time and energy to devote to your interests than others. What's important is the intention and the effort, not a perfect track record.
When we model self-care for our kids, we give them permission to prioritize their own happiness and fulfillment as they grow. By rediscovering your passions, you're not just enriching your own life - you're shaping the next generation to live authentically and joyfully.